Men and woman are wired differently and communicating our desires can be difficult. Men speak in blue and women listen in pink. Then women will respond in pink and men will understand in blue. It’s a vicious cycle that can lead to many headaches. If you’ve ever pondered on how to make your man happy, then you’ve come to the right place for answers.
In his book, His Needs, Her Needs, Dr. Willard Harley, a nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist and marriage counselor, outlines the top 5 things that all men need met in their lives in order to build and sustain a successful marriage.
HOW TO MAKE YOUR MAN HAPPY
Dr. Harley writes that a husbands and wives come into a marriage with emotional needs that need to be met by each other for 2 reasons:
- Promises are made to each other to allow the spouse the exclusive rights to meet the other person’s most important needs. If those needs go unmet, then one spouse feels like they have been cheated on and now have to go through the rest of their life without an ethical alternative.
- By meeting the other person’s needs you create an environment of healthy love for each other that is essential for building and maintaining a successful marriage.
Without further ado, let’s dive into our 5 simple things that are guaranteed to make your man happy!
Wives meet this need by becoming an irresistible sexual partner. A wife should study her sexual response to recognize and understand what brings out the best in her. The wife should openly communicate this with her husband. Then together they learn to have a healthy sexual relationship that they find repeatedly satisfying and enjoyable.
Wives should develop an interest in the recreational activities that her husband enjoys and attempt to become capable at doing them with him. If she discovers that she cannot enjoy them, she should encourage him to consider other activities that they can enjoy together. She can then become his favorite recreational companion; this easily allows the husband to associate his wife with his most enjoyable moments of relaxation.
AN ATTRACTIVE SPOUSE
Wives should keep themselves physically fit with diet and exercise. Wives should wear their hair, makeup, and clothes in a way that their husbands find tasteful and attractive. As the saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This is not meant to advocate for wives looking as if they are in a Ms. America pageant. Rather, it is meant for wives to look as her husband desires her to look; resembling the woman he married. Husbands can then be attracted to her in private and proud of her in public.
Wives should create a home that offers her husband a refuge from the stressors of life and work. Wives should manage the household responsibilities in a way that encourages her husband to spend time at home enjoying his family.
Wives should understand and appreciate their husbands more than anyone else. A wife reminds her husband of his value and achievements and helps him maintain self-confidence. A wife should be proud of her husband, not because she is required to, but because she has profound respect for the man she chose to marry.
What do you think guys? Does Dr. Harley hit the nail on the head here with establishing his basic needs for men?